remember when we were young? perhaps it was the curse of our ‘coddled millennial generation’, but if someone said or did something that upset us, we were told to express how we felt. in my own eloquent words, i’d usually (to the dismay of my very Punjabi parents) respond with “that hurt my feelings”. what a simple phrase. and with that, it was expected that the other would understand. feelings were hurt, whatever was said or done was wrong or hurtful, and should not be done again. what we perhaps overlooked at this tender age was the gigantic assumption that we were making — that people were inherently empathetic and cognizant enough to understand the plight of others.
it is, to me, one of the most defining aspects of humanity - the ability to sympathize by stepping out of one’s own mind and placing oneself in another’s. and yet, the older we get, the more experiences we personally collect, and the more ‘wisdom’ we think we have, the less i see this beautiful sentiment in action.
instead, we begin to hold others to the standards that we set for ourselves. we begin to judge based on what we know and what we understand to be morally correct or logically sound. we begin to question anyone and anything that strays from the norm that we have established within our own mind. but in interacting with each other, never do we stop to think, what if their standards are different? how have their experiences shaped their viewpoints? where have they been and how have they suffered? what if their moral compass points to a different North—who is to say which is correct and which is wrong?
the fact is that every single person is on a very individual journey, with struggles unknown to the rest of the world. who is to say that the girl who so shamelessly flaunts her beauty is not inside weeping, searching for confirmation because she never received any from her loved ones? who is to say that your shy colleague or classmate does not have a world view so revolutionary that he cannot even find the words to articulate it? who is to say that the rude woman at the grocery store isn’t balancing two jobs and a part time degree to put food on her kids’ plates? who is to say that the ‘too skinny’ girl is afraid to eat because her own body image is skewed? or the overweight man at the office doesn’t work out endless hours to no avail? the point is — you don’t know. you never will know every person’s story. and to assert judgments, labels, questions and point fingers while scoffing does nothing to help you nor the other.
empathy is innately human. but our world is not. and because of this dichotomy, empathy is increasingly difficult to harness. even in my daily conversations, i notice the lack thereof. my friends and i will casually mention a name or two, and question ‘why doesn’t she just do that’, or ‘why doesn’t he just get it?’. but the truth is…we’re not really asking why. if we were asking why, we would be asking the person in question - not each other. if we cared why, we might take that extra step to delve deeper, find the roots of insecurities in our friends and loved ones, and offer our empathy - not our scoffs, not our judgments, not our biased questions. because we, too, have deeply rooted inhibitions about ourselves. because we, too, have had traumatic experiences. because we, too, have felt lost, forgotten, unloved, or hurt. but in those moments, and in those conversations, we are not thinking with our hearts. we are failing to show even a glimmer of empathy.
i’ve caught myself lately and i’m trying to get better. a new go-to strategy is that if there’s nothing positive to say in or produce from the conversation at hand, it’s probably not worth having. granted, there are times where i let it go — and sadly, it’s because i’m afraid of looking too ‘uppity’ or un-human (ironic, right?). but i propose this to all of my friends, and anyone who cares to join; let’s change our thought process. let’s start thinking at a higher level, and even more - let’s start talking at one. the way we interact defines the way the world will run; it determines the energy that we exchange; and it certainly sets the stage for what we become. reconnect with your humanity, act with empathy.
12 min lvl 10 rolling hills stairmaster, 7-30sec sprints @ 9.6mph, 3x30sec rope pull, 3x10 single leg squat ea side, 3x max ab wheel #WOD
lots of frustration when I follow through to the T but the scale doesn’t budge. :( considered juice fasting but decided if rather keep going and be fit and healthy about it. pushing through and throwing away my scales.
cinnamon egg white oats with nuts, raisins, berries or whole grain waffles w pb fruit & egg for breakfast
veggies and chicken for lunch
Greek yogurt w berries/protein granola pre workout snack
protein shake for dinner/post workout
optional tea as night cap
usually crave a snack at night so will add more veggies/meat or quest bar
keeping them intense and 30-40 min, 5x per week. focusing more on cardio and body weight/kettle bell type stuff
mon butts&gutts class - about 1000 squats and lunges each time haha
tues stair master and jump rope intervals
weds WOD (make my own full body circuit)
thurs challenge or vid (ie 100 burpees for time or insanity vid etc)
fri stair master and jump rope intervals
screw being skinny i’d rather be badass
So far removed, it all feels like fluff. Show me real.
Anonymous asked: You're so pure. so beautiful and speak so much truth. I check your blog all the time and you help me reflect on my own life and Sikhi. I just wanted to say thank you <3
all praise to big G and none to me please.. i’m far from pure, but thank you for the kind words. sending you love <3
Anonymous asked: You really have a way with words <3 i'm left speechless when I read your poetry and I thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts with the world. You seem to be a beautiful and loving individual and based on your display picture... Damn girl you're a pretty lady! Sorry if this is creepy but you truly are a beautiful person based on your blog!!!! You're an inspiration! <3
:)vaheguru idk about inspiration but thanks for making my morning!! Xoxo